About four weeks ago, I gave up an opportunity to start a competitive MBA program. The journey that led to this goal started some time back. Last year, I finally committed to it. I studied for and took the GMAT, wrote the business school essays, asked for recommendations – the whole kit and caboodle. Then I was accepted and paid the $2000 non-refundable deposit.   It was at this point my spouse told me “Don’t plan for extra help around the house while you do this. It will be on top of the things you are already doing. I may not be available to help you because things may be hectic … [more...]

Since my daughter, Charlee, will celebrate her first birthday next week, and my son, Joey, just turned four, I started unconsciously taking pause and reflecting. Here’s a list of things I’ve learned, realized and basically come to grips with as a working mom: 1. It’s okay to not want to go to work. I remember reading Kristi’s post, Some Days, and thinking, you said it Sista. I am fortunate to work in education; my job is rewarding and it affords me time to be with my family. I am also grateful we have the power to work in most fields of our choice. However, there are days when I secretly … [more...]

It’s 9:45pm, the kids are finally asleep! Your husband is on a business trip (again). The kitchen looks like a war zone. You check the fridge to make sure there is cheese left for tomorrow’s lunch boxes (cheese & chips – one more day). You still have a to send out that report.   10:30pm, you’re finally done. Somehow those evening emails always end up taking more time than planned. You go to your room & seriously consider going to bed without washing your face nor brushing your teeth… You manage to get to the bathroom and go through the motions. And as you sit … [more...]

First, let me just say that I hate when I find something cute on Pinterest that advertises itself as "easy" - but isn't. I'm not very skillful when it comes to crafts. I have a short attention span and, like most of us, I have virtually no free time. So for me, easy needs to be...well...easy. Like so easy this tired pregnant not very crafty working mom can do it during nap time. So this year I set out to find some easy Easter cards I could make for the wonderful grandparents, great grandparents, aunts and uncles in our family. After finding lots of things I knew were above my skill-level, I … [more...]

Spring is in full swing and that means warmer weather, outdoor activities, and less time to spend cleaning. I recently caught up with Marie Stegner, consumer health advocate and blogger for the green cleaning leader, Maid Brigade, to find out some of her green cleaning secrets for healthy spring cleaning. “To save time, I always keep healthy cleaning supplies close at hand,” Marie says. “It’s amazing that you can safely and effectively clean your home with common household items like olive oil, baking soda, white vinegar, and lemon.” I love this approach! I know a lot of the common … [more...]

and it was one of the coolest and most frightening experiences of my entire life! This is the story about how I ended up on Fox News last Monday. I'm sure many of you read the comments that Gwyneth Paltrow made on E! News about working moms a few weeks ago. If not, read them here so you can follow my story. I will wait while you educate yourself  :roll: Pretty ridiculous, right? A friend of mine at work told me about the story and advised I braced myself before clicking on the link, she does not have kids but knew I would not take kindly to her comments. My husband immediately … [more...]

“We owe five-thousand dollars,” my husband whispered. I clenched my teeth, and stared stupidly. “But how?” I squeaked. “We made too much money this year, got bumped up to a higher tax bracket.” “But….” my voice trailed off. Mentally, I protested. “But, we don’t have five thousand dollars.” “But, don’t they understand how much we pay in student loans every month?” “But, we’re relocating in a month, and I won’t have a job..” “How are we going to pay for this?” “Are you sure the accountant calculated the taxes correctly?” My chest felt heavy. My temples … [more...]

As a resident, our schedule involved something called “q 4.”  This meant that every 4th night, you spent in the hospital, rather than in your comfy bed. So, you would come in at 6am or so the morning of, and stay until about noon of the next day. Thirty hours straight, every 4th night. Boo. After my husband and I got married at the end of our intern year, he looked at me and said, “You’re plotting when we are going to have a baby, aren’t you?” And I was. I had to figure out how a baby was going to work with q4 and an eighty-hour work week.  (Not to mention living on one resident’s salary … [more...]

A reader ("L") recently wrote in with this all-too-common working mom's conundrum: I am a working mom of 2 boys, ages 18 months and 4. When I became a mom I knew this "working outside the home" path I was on was not going to be all right in my book. I had a breakdown today. My little guy had a fever of 103 degrees. And all he wanted was ME. And I had to go to WORK. So my husband typically gets the privilege of staying home with our kids when one is ill because he has much more flexibility with his job. And I left my little one today, knowing that he just wanted mommy. And I cried the … [more...]

My husband and I are fairly new to the parenting thing. Our oldest son is 4 years old and our youngest is 7 months. The past four years have been a roller coaster of emotions and experiences. One day our confidence in our ability to parent is strong, the next day it might be non-existent. Just when we think we might know what we are doing, something happens that makes us question our ability to be the parents we want to be. Parenting a 4 year old is really testing our patience lately. Through the years, I have been fascinated by the distinct differences in my oldest son's behavior from … [more...]