I wish I had all the answers for busy mothers about finding time to take care of yourselves. But like all of us working moms, I’m being pulled in 100 directions. So I have resorted to being sneaky about taking care of myself.
Why do I have advice for working moms?
Well, you know that lady that you see at daycare, sweating already at 7:30 in the morning and not because she’s been to the gym? Or the mother who is running after one toddler in heels while carrying another and screaming for the third kid to stay put? That’s me. I’m Casey Stump, mother to toddler twins, a preschooler, a diabetic cat, a puppy, and 6 chickens. I’m a wife, a daughter, and to complicate it all I work with my husband and father in our family business.
This not a complaint. I’m super happy to be all of those things, (OK – about 90% of the time), but I feel like I’m constantly playing catch up. I had unrealistic expectations for working motherhood. I thought I could maintain my loyalty to the business, give my kids everything they need and keep my marriage fresh and alive. Boy was I wrong. And even worse – I’m pretty sure my family is not aware that I am my own person. There are nights when they literally would not allow me to pee if it weren’t for the fact that I lock them out of the bathroom.
As a result, I have learned to be a little sneaky about finding time for myself. Every once in a while I get a pedicure before I pick up the kids from preschool. Or one of my favorites – I take a 20 minute nap in the van in the Whole Foods parking lot next to preschool. If you go in for milk and put on your sunglasses while you nap, you might even fool a few people. Or maybe not.
But I think I could be better at finding some more time. So I ask you, busy working moms, what do you do to find more time to yourself? Do you rise before the kids to get a walk or run in? Do you have a housekeeper? Do you put the kids to bed way too early when you have had enough? Do you turn on the TV and pretend that they aren’t watching more than you told your pediatrician at their last well check – we all lie about this one, it’s OK.
How do you take care of yourself? I would love to hear from you! Comment below.