My son turned six months this week, and he is going strong. He’s rolling over both ways, sitting up on his own for long periods of time, playing and interacting with toys (and people), and his hand-eye coordination is getting better every day. (His hands move around at light speed these days! It’s hard to make sure he’s not eating everything he picks up.) He also has seven teeth (but that’s a topic for another day).So when I recently received an email of baby milestones in my inbox, I opened it feeling confident. Then I read this statement, “Your son/daughter might be able to sort blocks.” What? Huh? Sort blocks? At six months? I thought it was good if they could even pick up the blocks at this age–let alone sort them.
Thoughts immediately started racing through my mind–Am I not giving him enough floor time? Is daycare giving him an adequate amount of tummy time? If he had more floor or tummy time, could he sort blocks?
Silly, I know.
Then my thoughts slowed down and I reminded myself that every baby is different, and these emails aren’t supposed to make me feel bad. Just set expectations. But sometimes they do make me feel bad. I feel like they also can potentially set up a sort of competition between moms–“My son rolled over at two months.”; “Well, my daughter crawled at six months”; “My daughter walked at eight months!” Instead of comparing, measuring, weighing and worrying, we should all sit back, relax, and be happy we have healthy, well-adjusted youngsters. And let them develop at their own pace.
So now I’m not going to open those milestone emails anymore. Oh, who am I kidding? Of course I will.