Let me start off by saying, I both can and cannot believe it’s been so long since I’ve last written anything “substantial.”
The start of the year has been a whirlwind. Work was insane–and it’s still going strong. Every day I leave completely and utterly mentally exhausted. It’s really all I can do to drive home and take care of O for a few hours before collapsing into bed (that is, if I don’t have to work more in the evening.) But that’s life, sometimes, especially when you work in the ad business. At least I have a job! And for that I’m thankful.
But I gotz some changes going on in my life that I think might help my mental, physical, and financial state. Instead of attending daycare full time, O now attends daycare just two days a week, and the rest of the week he stays at home with his dad.
First, why the change? Well, remember when I wrote this? I said it was because the piece hit close to home, and it DID. Without getting delving into too much personal stuff, our little family’s financial situation was hurting.
The decision to pull O from daycare wasn’t one we took lightly. His dad and I talked, talked, and talked some more. O loves school, he has made some really good friends, and it has been an absolutely amazingly positive influence on his life–giving him socialization skills, in addition to the gobs of stuff he learns each day. I knew our daycare center didn’t allow for part-time students, so when his dad and I talked, we considered it as an “all or nothing” situation: O either stayed at home full-time or was in daycare full-time. This kept me from making any sort of decision for quite awhile.
I finally approached our daycare, explained our situation, asked what we could do, and I discovered they were open to part-time enrollment! Woot! We are now in week three of our new arrangement, and it seems to be working.
There are some days at work where I mentally and physically freeze for a second–searching my brain for the day, trying to determine whether or not I’m picking up O from daycare. O has been going to daycare since he was three months old (he’s two and a half now) and, because his daycare is so close to my work, I’ve done the lion’s share of drop-offs and pickups. This new routine is taking a little getting used to, but O is thriving so far. He LOVES spending extra time with his dad, but he still gets to see his daycare friends and beloved teacher. I get some alone time on the ride to work a few days a week, and I get home a lot quicker on the days he’s not in daycare, which gives me more time to spend quality time with my little guy.
But I want to make this post more than just an update on my current work/life situation. Since I’ve shared my story in my own little circle of friends and family, I’ve discovered that other people I know are “working” with their preschools and day cares to figure out situations that work for them financially, without disrupting their children’s lives. It can be done. All you have to do is ask.
So, just ask. It’s gonna be ok… da da da doom. Just ask… (Get it? Lady GaGa?)