Let’s talk about what’s hard ladies.
Being a mom is hard.
Being a stay-at-home mom is hard.
Being a working mom is hard.
To be human is to be hard—and that’s ok. Hard doesn’t mean bad.
You know you can do hard things.
You um, pushed a watermelon out of a hole the size of a lemon. Or maybe your designer zipper installed and spent the next three days in the hospital.
No matter how your baby came into the world, you did it. It was HARD.
And you did it.
Then the rewards started flowing, and showing up in ways you never imagined – like the smell of freshly washed baby hair after a lavender bath, the feeling of tiny fingers wrapped inside of yours, and the sound of little giggles filling the air with joy bubbles.
Suddenly, things don’t seem so hard after all.
When I was on maternity leave with my first kid, I worried about how hard it was going to be going back to work, and having a baby at home. Yes, it was hard. I spent more energy trying to act like it wasn’t hard than finding ways to make it easier.
Now, I still don’t love throwing the term, “working mom” around, because all mom’s work. When I refer to a working mom though, you know exactly what I’m talking about. Professional mother, mom with a job, mompreneur – whatever you want to call her, it’s cool with me.
I’ve been doing the working mom thing for 7 of the 12 years of my professional life. At first, it felt clunky, awkward, and painful.
There were times when I actually considered having [wait for it], another baby so I could take a break, and maybe wouldn’t have to work anymore. Crazy, right? I just found work I enjoyed more instead and put that thought aside – for good.
It took me a long time to kinda, sorta, almost find my groove – 7 years, 2 babies, and 2 countries. Enough so that I just published a book just for working moms, which ended up being the best kind of therapy.
Once I found my groove, it was easier to keep going – doing work I love, finding simple ways to make it work, and even feeling unapologetically grateful for the work I do while refusing to feel guilty.
In case you need a little reminder, a refresher, or some new reasons to have a big slice of gratitude pie with whip cream on top, here’s some reasons why I LOVE being a working mom:
- Keeping your brain sharp. Even if it doesn’t feel totally “on” all the time, it’s working.
- Silent car rides. Traffic? More quiet time.
- Talking to grown ups without someone pulling on your shirt or smacking your butt (and if these things happen where you work – I wanna know where you work!)
- Waking up a new part of your brain with every new challenge thrown your way.
- You actually look forward to Monday sometimes.
- If my husband lost his job, we wouldn’t be homeless and living on canned beans.
- Using work as an excuse for hubby to take over when I’m zonked. “Honey, I have to work tonight, can you put the kids to bed?”
- I get to show my kids that their mom gets to do work she loves.
- Kids are a really good excuse for taking sick days (whether they’re sick or not). “Kid is sick, not coming in today” is all your note needs to say – no questions asked.
- More money for soy lattes and expensive kombucha.
- A day at the office can be relaxing than wearing your supermom cape all day.
- Running, full bodied bear hugs at the end of the day.
What’s your favorite thing about being a working mom?
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