You’re a successful working mom with happy, healthy kids, a solid relationship with your partner, and a booming career. Do you feel guilty if you happen to have a fatter paycheck than your hubby?
According to Dr. Gail Saltz on Wednesday’s Today Show, “For some couples, having the woman make more money than the man creates an insurmountable problem.” Great–one more thing working moms can feel guilty about. Don’t be too successful, or it could hurt your man’s pride.
Saltz also discussed how some women actually resent being the breadwinner (whaaa?), because they “hold on to the fantasy that having a man support them makes them more feminine.” I say, what’s more feminine than being at the top of your professional game, not to mention supporting the fam? That’s hot!
I do like “Dr. Gail’s Bottom Line,” though:
The key, as always, is communication. Be up front, discuss budding resentments early before they fester and grow. Divide responsibilities so that no one is unfairly burdened. Don’t take on everything yourself and be a martyr, blaming him for everything that may go wrong. The goal is to stop being “me” and “he” and be a “we.”
What do you think about breadwinner guilt? Is there room for shame, blame, or an array of sadness in regards to mom bringing home more bacon?