By Nicole Johnson
Being a new mama can be tough. You’re up all night, you’re trying to figure out feedings and naps. Often, it feels like just keeping your wee babe alive is a full-time job! But of course, for so many of us, the reality is that we have the dual jobs of being mom to a baby, AND working a part-time or full-time job outside our homes.
As lead sleep consultant at The Baby Sleep Site, I often get questions from moms whose maternity leave is ending, and who are wondering how on earth they’re going to manage this whole mothering thing while also being a successful, productive employee. Well, over the years, I’ve cultivated quite a lot of wisdom about how working mamas can manage work and motherhood. And I’m so pleased to have the opportunity to share my sleep tips for moms with you today.
My back-to-work story
First, though, I wanted to share with you a bit about my own back-to-work story. I birthed my own beautiful first-born baby back in October 2005. Like so many first-time moms, I figured my oldest son would just eat when he was hungry, sleep when he was tired, and fuss only when he needed something.
Oh, how wrong I was.
To put it simply, my oldest son was NOT a sleeper. Add to that the fact that he’s always been an intense and persistent little guy, and those early weeks after birth were NOT easy. Additionally, he was REALLY reluctant to take a bottle. When my little guy was 8 weeks old, he entered full-time daycare. It was much, much harder on me than I’d imagined, to make that transition. I remember I’d go over to the daycare most weekdays, during my lunch break, to breastfeed.
It became apparent to me very quickly that daycare wasn’t working too well for our family. My son (who’s not a sleeper, remember?) barely slept at all at daycare, which meant that the time I had with him at home wasn’t great, as he was really cranky and fussy. And all that missed sleep during the day made him too overly-tired to sleep well at night, which meant he and I were up most nights together. We made it work for about 6 months, although it was really challenging. But then, at around 8 months, he went on a total nap strike and wouldn’t nap AT ALL during daycare. At that point, I hired a nanny. That was a real turning point for us; I was able to carve out a much better daytime schedule for him, and that’s when we started working towards getting him to sleep through the night.
Okay, so now that you know a bit about my experience, I want to share with you 5 key tips that should help to ease the transition a bit, and make it easier on both you and your baby, whether you have a nanny or use daycare.
1. Talk about sleep with your childcare provider.
In my experience, sleep (specifically the daily nap schedule) is not something that many parents discuss with their childcare providers. But your baby’s sleep is key. So make sure to inquire about naps. What’s the schedule? Where do naps happen? What will your childcare provider do if your baby misses a nap? Even better, get your childcare provider to write out a sample daily schedule, so that you can plan your child’s time at home around their sleep schedule in childcare.
2. Start planning for feedings well in advance.
If you’re breastfeeding, and want to continue doing so after you go back to work, you’ll want to start introducing a bottle at least several weeks before you return to work. (In my case, the bottle intro was TOUGH; eventually, I learned my son would only take breast milk from a bottle if it was really, really warm.) Additionally, you’ll want to start pumping regularly a few weeks before you’re back at work, in order to build up a freezer supply. Finally, talk openly with your employer about your pumping needs at work. Don’t forget, federal law dictates that your employer has to provide you with pumping breaks, as well as a place to pump, until your baby’s first birthday. If you’re not breastfeeding, getting your baby on a feeding routine ahead of time will likely help the transition go smoother.
3. Practice your new weekday routine a week or two before your return-to-work date.
Heading back to work probably means earlier wake-up times, adjusted feeding and nap times, and possibly a different bedtime. So a week or two before you go back to work, start gradually transitioning to your workday schedule. This will help ease your baby (and you!) into the new weekday groove, and will help you spot and deal with any issues that may arise ahead of time, which in turn can help minimize the stress you feel during your first week back to work.
4. If naps aren’t great on weekdays, plan for early bedtimes, and create a separate weekend schedule.
As I mentioned, my son never slept well at daycare (although that’s not true for all babies; some tend to sleep better at daycare!). However, if your baby is consistently missing sleep at daycare, plan for an early bedtime on weekdays (in the hopes that you can help your little one catch up on some missed sleep), and then set up an alternate weekend schedule that will allow for more nap time. This isn’t ideal, of course, but it’s a good compromise; if you can help you baby nap well on the weekends, and get to bed early on weekdays, you can help counteract the sleep deficit that happens during the day, at daycare.
5. Be aware of reverse cycling.
If you’re breastfeeding, and you plan to continue breastfeeding exclusively once you’re back to work, then you’ll no doubt be very focused on pumping and maintaining your supply. One thing that working moms sometimes find is their baby begins reverse cycling. With reverse cycling, your baby feeds frequently at night, and not much during the day. Now, this is obviously a problem for lots of moms, as it majorly interferes with sleep; however, some full-time working moms end up loving this “problem” because it ensures they get plenty of breastfeeding time w/ their babies, which is incredibly bonding AND helps keep milk supply up. This is especially great for babies who aren’t bottle fans, and who may therefore not be getting much expressed breast milk during the day.
One last note: I’ve found that when moms are about to return to work, they usually get far more concerned about sleep. Specifically, they start becoming really, really interested in how they can help baby sleep through the night. And no wonder; it’s hard to be a productive employee if you regularly conk out at you desk. This is one reason I created a free e-book, 5 Ways To Help Your Child Sleep Through The Night. It’s free to download, and is full of sleep tips that both stay-at-home and working moms can use.
Nicole Johnson is a married mother of two wonderful boys and owner of The Baby Sleep Site. When her eldest son was born, he had a lot of sleep problems – he would wake every one or two hours, all night long! She got busy and thoroughly researched literature and scientific reports until she became an expert in sleep methods, scheduling routines, baby developmental needs, and more. She overcame her son’s sleeping issues in a way that matched her own parenting style, and knew it was her mission to help other tired parents “find their child’s sleep”. If you have your own sleep issues, maybe she can help you, too.
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