Ever wonder what happened to the school bully? Did he or she grow up and change his/her ways? Or, did they turn into the work bully?
Being bullied at work was a subject on today’s “Good Morning America.” The bully usually being the boss. Instead of knocking you against your cubicle for your lunch, they make you feel incompetent and worthless. Usually the employee suffers in silence, becoming more and more anxious and stressed at work.
My husband worked for a bully. He spent about a year working at an architecture firm, doing the best job he could, trying to avoid conflict with a boss who just couldn’t be pleased. It eventually made him sick to his stomach. He loathe driving to work each morning and even started to suffer from depression because of it. Thankfully he got the hell out of there, and now works for a great bully-free firm.
Although this was a case of a male bully. In most instances it’s women targeting other women. According to Abc.com and a survey by the Workplace Bullying Institute:
While men tend to target men and women employees equally, women bosses are likely to aim their hostility toward other women more than 70 percent of the time.
Remember Miranda in “The Devil Wears Prada?” I don’t care how great the clothes were in that film–watching it made me so uncomfortable and stressed out! It’s unfortunate when you have a nasty boss, especially when it’s a woman. You’d think women at work would ban together and have a mutual understanding. That a female superior would be a mentoring figure. Not a demeaning, power-hungry you-know-what. Don’t get me wrong–I know this world is full of wonderful women managers. And I hope this statistic doesn’t overshadow them at all.
So what was the advice to those being bullied at work? Stop avoiding it and deal with it. Go to higher management and let them know about the situation. That takes a lot of guts. And in my opinion, usually by the time someone realizes they can’t take the bully anymore–it’s already too late. The employee already has one foot out the door.
Have you been bullied at work? How did you handle the situation? Or, do you have a great female supervisor?